To me supports means having family and friends and other people, to turn to in times of joys and sorrows. They can give you a broader perspective of things from a positive point of view.
My first and foremost supporters and champion of all my hopes and dreams are my families. John my perspicacious loving husband and best friend of 30 wonder-filled years, who knows and have supported me in all things; you are truly the calm to my storm. My beautiful sagacious and loving daughter DaJohnia, the very first love that grew under my heart. My handsome, phenomenal son Jonathan, and my amazing magnificent #1 grandson Christian who loves me unconditionally.
These are the ones who keep encouraging me to pursue my education, giving me that extra boost to go after the things in life that mean the most to me, even when I feel like giving up. Supporting me through career changes from banking to early childhood, going back to school in my forties, stepping up to help with daily living chores. My children who although in school, stepped up to help me with difficult math assignments, providing me with encouragement, taking on more independence so that I could focus more on my studies. Just to know that they love and believe in me adds to my deposits in life that strengthen me.
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My second support group is my siblings. My loving brother Frank and his exceptional wife Carrie, The Rock and patriarch of our family of seven sisters. There is nothing that we as his sisters can ask of him that he isn’t willing to do, and believe me when I say, this is not an easy task, and yet he is always there for us especially when we need a father figure to lean on.
To my loving sisters: Mattie, Verdell, Victoria, Ethelene, Alice and Queen each one have special and varied talents, who give of themselves supporting me and taking care of me and my family over the years when my children were small and now years later taking care of me when I had major surgery, cooking, cleaning, praying for and with me, giving advice, and just being there in so many more wonderful ways.
To my other family members, friends and medical specialist, who have been with me through the years, providing a listening ear, words of encouragement, and yes caring enough to share with me not only my strengths but also my weaknesses with insight and ways to improve. Without each and every one of them being there with and for me, I know my life would not have been as complete as it is now.
This assignment asked us to share an imagine disability and the supports needed. Truth be told, I do not have to imagine a disability for which I would need support; I am living every day with ADHD, this disability will never go away, therefore, I both want and need the understanding and patience of others, especially during those moments of hyperactivity in both thoughts and actions.
For those of you that can’t imagine what this is like, think of the Energizer bunny, how it keeps going and going nonstop. Now think of engaging in a conversation with someone, who keeps interrupting, not because they are rude, but because of uncontrolled impulses, the need to say something before you forget. Oh yes, starting a conversation midway, because your brain is moving faster than your words, or pausing and forgetting what you were talking about. Losing that very important item (keys, paper, etc.) searching frantically for it only to realize you are holding it in your hands. These were the things I experienced as a child, not knowing what or why I was functioning this way but having really great supports to help keep me focused and grounded.
It wasn’t until I was an adult, that I got the medical diagnose of Adult ADHD, having learned how to manage, but not forget all the struggles, I went through; I can truly understand, empathize and be there for the students that I teach daily, who also struggles. I look at them and I see myself. I know that without all of the supports that I have had over the years and still experience. I would not be where I am today. I know with certainty that this would not be possible without my support system. My family for loving me in spite of my hyperactivity, some days more hyped than others. My friends and colleagues and my medical professionals all listen patiently and working with me to create the right balance that keeps me focused.
References
National Association for the Education of Young Children & Division for Early Childhood of the Council
For Exceptional Children. (2009). Early Childhood Inclusion. Retrieved from http:// www. naeyc.org/ files/naeyc/file/positions/DEC_NAEYC_EC_updatedKS.pdf